Be the queen no more!

Be the Queen no more!

31st July 2018

Girl children tend to rule the roost at home in food, clothes, games, etc. I certainly did in food until my mum took a stand. Nowadays, even though it seems that parents are now finally ruling over children, girls are becoming more and powerful in the home. Many children get everything they want from their parents and if they don’t get it they howl or make a fuss. This even happens in Christian homes like my own. In Deuteronomy 21:18-21 it says, “If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and, though they discipline him, will not listen to them, then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of his city at the gate of the place where he lives, and they shall say to the elders of his city, ‘This our son is stubborn and rebellious; he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton and a drunkard.’ Then all the men of the city shall stone him to death with stones. So you shall purge the evil from your midst, and all Israel shall hear, and fear. Even though the verse talks about boys, it can also apply to girls. I would not like that happening to me. Thankfully, that does not happen in our days.

Anyway, even though ruling the roost and being the “Queen of the house” may be nice for girls, it is certainly not nice for the parents. Also in the Bible, it says, “Honour thy father and mother that your days may be prolonged in the land which the LORD your God gives you.” Ex 20:12. This shows us that girls weren’t supposed to rule the roost, rather, they are to honour their parents/guardians.

Now how do we fix this problem? Think of it like a transition from Queen to princess. When your parents say no, believe me it’s no. Don’t fret or whine about it. The second thing is even when your parents themselves are spoiling you and giving you what you want when you want it, say no. I know this will be hard because having a mother who will give you everything you want, but your father says “No, you can’t” well, you can guess how hard this is.  Having to choose between what you want, and what you should take is hard. Also, it could be that both of your parents allow you to have anything you want. You know that you shouldn’t, but it’s nice to always “Rule the roost.” Ask God and He’ll help. Tell your parents that you know that you shouldn’t, and I know that for the sake of your health and wellbeing, they will listen.  Last but not least, in fact I will go as far to say that this is the most important -pray. Pray to God and He will help you.  And remember, Be the Queen no more!