Mums and daughters: cultivating talk time as girls 

Some of the challenges mothers struggle with is making time to catch up with their children even though they live under the same roof. 

Life’s busyness has caused many of our mother daughter relationships to become strained. There has to be deliberate/purposeful action if we are going to raise daughters who will confide in us and experience the freedom to be who God intends them to be. 

I cultivated the habit of sharing personal times of chatting with my daughter from a very tender age, I would call her aside, we sat and chatted about life.  I asked about her challenges, school life, what she was not happy about, things I was doing that she did not like etc. This practice opened opportunities for us to chat deeply, even though we spoke and discussed life generally every day, the times that we set aside to chat was very productive both for her and for me. 

Sometimes, I took her back to some of my past experiences, my choices and the consequences. Sometimes we took time out to chat as we looked at nature and saw where that fitted into her life as she grew as a girl.  These occasions have become reference points for her in her development. 

 I believe this is a vital aspect mothers must cultivate in the upbringing of their daughters. Our daughters are bombarded with so much at school, even at church and they just want to spill out some of these things, that is why mothers are there.  For if you are not taking time to chat with your girl, someone else will be interested in doing that, the effect of which you might not like later on in life. 

Our daughters are languishing and deprived of talk time with mums, why not create time for talks with your daughter? 

Songs of Sol 1:7-8 has been a blessing to me since a sister of mine shared it with me some many years ago. It says, “Tell me, O thou whom my soul loveth, where thou feedest, where thou makest thy flock to rest at noon: for why should I be as one that turneth aside by the flocks of thy companions? If thou know not, O thou fairest among women, go thy way forth by the footsteps of the flock, and feed thy kids beside the shepherds’ tents. 

Do you have a place and a time when you feed your daughter with stories needed for her wellbeing?  Spending time with my daughters has helped me to go my way by the footsteps of my flock, and what an opportunity to feed them by the Shepherd’s tent. 

Your daughters long for talk time with you! 


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